The passing of a loved one affects everyone in various
ways. It creates extreme stress,
disruption of daily life and the exposure of our most deeply-held emotions.
This is the time when the helpful and professional staff at AAsum-Dufour takes
over. Our purpose is to guide, direct,
and relieve you of the many details of this difficult and sometimes confusing
The services provided for the deceased by AAsum-Dufour range
in many ways; from traditional or contemporary, burial or cremation, public or
private gatherings or viewings. As caring staff members, it is our goal to
create an experience for each and every family we serve that is as unique as
the individual who has passed.
first choice to consider is how you want to celebrate the life of your loved
one. The main goal is all about bringing
those you love and care about together to honor the life that was lived. This can be done in a variety of ways. Whether you choose a traditional service,
celebration of life, informal family gathering or even a picnic, this is the
first step in the healing process. We
at AAsum-Dufour Funeral Home can help guide you to decide what is right for you
and your family and what is the best way to celebrate your loved one’s life.
Your next consideration focuses on
choosing between burial and cremation. Often times, people are clear on this
point. In fact, your loved one may have told you, or someone else, exactly how
they wish to be cared for at the time of their passing. But, for some families,
it can be a difficult choice, especially when the wishes of the deceased were
never clearly stated. If that's the case, please know we're here to help advise
you and provide direction. Our desire is
the same as yours; to help you reach the best decision for you that still
honors your loved one.
Once you have made that decision, the
finer details become the focus. If you've chosen burial, then selecting the
casket, vault, and desired cemetery follows. Naturally, we’re here to help you
and provide guidance on all these options.
If cremation is your preference, then
you'll need to make the next decision: whether the cremated remains will be
placed in a mausoleum niche, scattered in a meaningful spot, or buried on the
grounds of a cemetery. Making this
choice will also lead to the decision on the type of urn you want. As always, we’re here to provide information
and options on the best urn to fit your needs.
Now that we've helped you with the essentials,
it's time to reflect more on exactly what is suitable for you and your family.
If possible, gather everyone together to speak on their feelings and desires to
ensure that everyone is heard and importantly, that everyone is in agreement.
Still looking for inspiration?
Speaking with one of our staff members can help to clarify your thinking. We’re
always available and always ready to answer any questions that you might
have. You can reach us anytime at (541) 926-5541.
means creating a dedicated place for family and friends to join and remember
your loved one. This helps to create a
constant place of gathering and healing, and it can be done in a variety of
In our modern and often mobile society,
people aren't given enough time to grieve their losses. The pressures of work,
family, society, even something as simple as the emotional need to ‘be busy,’
often bring the bereaved back into the ‘real’ world far too soon. When one is rushed through the grieving process,
long-term problems can arise.
Also, more and more families are
choosing to scatter the cremated remains of their loved one in a favorite
place; the ocean, a certain spot in the woods, or even in the skies above. We at AAsum-Dufour Funeral Home believe that
this is meaningful choice for some, but understand that it does not fit every
family. Additionally, while this
provides an option that may seem fitting at the time, it means that you do not
have a definitive place to visit and reminisce on the memories of the loved one
that meant so much to you.
Having such a permanent place –
whether it’s in a cemetery, mausoleum, or cremation garden - that can be
visited regularly by family and friends can be an important part of the
grieving process. It becomes a central point of memorialization for everyone,
and gives them a special and meaningful place to go to remember your loved one. These places also can help to allow people to
commemorate important occasions, which can help to make a birthday, holiday or
anniversary less painful.
A permanent place to reflect and
remember your loved one also becomes a means of connecting to a family's past. They
provide a permanent fixture for children to be able to visit the resting place
of grandparents or great-grandparents.
This allows them to have a connection to their own personal history,
which is also a connection to the past and to the love shared by many. It truly
honors the relationship you still have – and will always have – with that special
someone in your life.
death of a family pet is difficult for all family members but is often the
first experience of death for children. In
many instances, pets can be much like family and their loss is one that can
have a huge impact on everyone. As such,
it gives you a unique opportunity to help children celebrate life and helps your
family heal from the loss. In these times,
you can turn to us with confidence. We
will provide you with information to help you make the best decision for you
and your animal companion. We have our
own crematory on site and can arrange for the private cremation of your
pet. Contact us to get more information
on arrangements and pricing.